Every year thousands of people set goals and commitments that they either achieve, quit, or make excuses and reasons why they cannot accomplish their goals. And the biggest thing they do to themselves is disrespect the relationship they have with THEMSELVES by allowing those excuses to keep them from continuing. If you want to STRETCHYOURSELF to the next level, there are specific disciplines and simpler ways of seeing the world through your eyes that will help you understand that being committed will enable a happier life that responds to you.
Sometimes we make life more complicated than it is. We attach happiness to achievement and then look for it in all the wrong ways and in all the wrong places. Of course, you don’t have to live like this. If you feel like you are, it’s time to simplify things. It’s time to get back to the basics. So this blog is about helping you become more committed to achieve the things you want in life, while respecting the relationship you keep with yourself so read on and enjoy!
Understand that becoming more committed is not being strict on yourself - that's insanely unrealistic and is a recipe for giving up - but simply how consistent, efficient, and effective you are and putting first things first, and using your time accordingly to pursue the things that matter and make a difference to you and you life.
So here are 6 ways to help you become more committed, and do just that:
1. Lose yourself in the vision of completion.
To truly commit yourself to anything you set out to achieve, you have to let go a little, and lose yourself in the vision of completion. Meaning...take some time and really visualize and write down when you have achieve whatever goal you have set out to accomplish.
Now when you do this there is one specific thing that I want you to focus on the feeling of achieving it.
Whatever you are visualizing, I want you to be engrossed in a emotional aspect of your achievement. What I've learned is that when you visualize and allow your emotions to charge your visualization, you become more committed to achieving the goal, rather then getting tied up in the details and talking yourself out of even trying. This happens when athletes play sports, you'll hear commentators talk about how the athlete committed to doing something and everything naturally happened. When you are emotionally connected to your vision, it allows you to commit, go all in to make it happen.
In other words, to become more committed isn't just about being consciously aware; it’s also about the unconscious part of your mind naturally intertwining with the emotions that charge your intentions, and passions that move you.
2. Know what you want and commit to it.
The words ‘aware’ and ‘commit’ are so powerful. It’s amazing what you can do once you’re aware of what you want and you're committed to doing it. If you can honestly say that you are fully aware of your desires and what they entail, and that you are devoted to doing what it takes, you are already in a high spirited state of mind.
Being aware and committed means you are informed – alert, knowledgeable, prepared – and you have the mindset to visualize, strategize, focus, and achieve.
The more aware you are of life and its difficulties, and the more committed you will be when the good and bad situations come, and the less stressful life will be in the long-run.
3. Guard yourself against dream crushers.
Stop sharing your dreams with people who bring up the negative aspects of what you want to accomplish to try to hold you back, even if they’re the people who are supposed to support you – parents, wives, husbands, siblings, friends, etc.
If you’re passionate about something out in the world that you want to explore – an interest that’s a little different than the norm – something that makes you STRETCHYOURSELF out of ordinary to a bit of EXTRA-ordinary, you’ll never get there if you listen to negative people who try to keep you doubting yourself. They only either wish for you to settle into the comfortable, ordinary role they expect of you, or they fear your growth will separate the relationship you share.
4. Focus on the way you want to FEEL.
You will begin to become happier and more successful the minute you decide to be.
Knowing how you actually want to feel is the most potent form of clarity that you can have. Generating these feelings is the most powerfully creative thing you can do with your life.
Your thoughts create your reality: A positive context leads to positive actions, thoughts, and feelings, which gradually lead to positive results. This mindset is the magic ingredient that helps you persevere in the face of challenges, setbacks, pain, and even personal injury.
5. Maintain a flexible, constructive perspective.
Forget all the reasons it won’t work and figure out the one good reason it will. It’s possible that you won’t get the exact results you had anticipated, but that’s OK – it’s still progress as long as you learn from the results you do get. And perhaps with your newfound understanding you’ll discover a way to achieve even better results than you had originally thought possible.
Your choice of perspective has the power to build or demolish. Your mind has the uninhibited ability to take any experience and create a meaning that deprives you or one that can literally make you jump for joy.
6. Drop the comparisons.
Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is simply understanding that you’re OK just the way you are. Don’t let the silly little dramas and dilemmas of each day get you down. There is no reason for you to feel sorry for yourself, and there is no point in acting in such a way that others feel sorry for you.
Forget about where others are in their lives or things that's happened in the past. You aren’t competing against them; Things happened to strengthen your journey not weaken it, and you are supposed to be right where you are. Every life is unique. You were born to do things that have never been done, to understand things that have never been understood. And you’re doing it. The aches and pains you feel are the side effects of personal growth.
How would your life be different if you stopped making negative judgmental assumptions about your life and how you think it should be? Let today be the day you look at the positive aspects of this journey that is uniquely yours.
If you find yourself not feeling it today, remember, tomorrow morning is a new beginning. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with stopping, refilling your bucket, sleeping, and starting fresh again in the morning. Commitment is about being consistent, not wearing down your energy to the point you don't feel like going on. Tomorrow is another opportunity to start fresh with a strong mindset.
What would you add to this list? What do you do to stay committed to make the progress in your goal achievements? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts with the STRETCHYOURSELF community and if you would like to share with me or bounce ideas off me, I welcome you to a Complimentary Discovery session that will help you move in the direction with strong commitment and focus. Thanks for reading and I look forward to connecting with you soon.
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