In today's blog I want to ask the question....What have you done today, to make a difference in the life of someone else? Much too often we find ourselves so busy with what we think is important only to find that the importance we placed on what we are doing isn't really important at all. We have reached a point in this nation where people really need people, to speak a kind word, to assist where it is needed, to share something you may have and someone else needs it.
You must be observant and notice people around you whether its family, friends, or co-workers, just pay attention and you will feel with your human spirit whether there is a need.
Did you know that when you stretch yourself and create effective fulfilling relationships that you have your own personal network standing in the wings, ready and waiting to help you get closer to achieving whatever you want in life?
Your problem is that you haven’t stretched yourself to realize their true value and potential.
There is positive momentum and negative momentum.
Are you creating positive momentum in your life, drawing the things you want in your life, or are you pushing it away?
In this blog I'm going to give you ten suggestions (or reminders) to help you maintain focus on what really matters.
Spring has finally here in Atlanta and that always means changes. Those changes have already started, we just don't see them.
They're taking place deep underground where roots are spreading, plants are drawing the nutrition they need to flower and flourish.
Whether you like it or not change is always happening around us, in nature and in your life. Sometimes these changes are subtle, sometimes they're obvious. In some cases you can't control changes, like the changing of seasons. But there are changes that you can create, the kind of changes that you want when you apply a simple process.
In today's blog I'll show you how you can create the changes you want quickly and easily.
So Read on and enjoy!
Today’s blog is dedicated to Steve Jobs. I want to dedicate his life as an example that we all can follow. I recently listened to his speech on YouTube that he gave to a graduating class and it moved me to the point where I had to write about him and hopefully this blog will interpret the belief system that he had within.
Steve Jobs believed in himself.
Despite having the odds against him, he believed in himself.
He believed in his vision.
He believed that he could change the world and the way we communicate.
He believed he could make a difference.
And he did.
Wow... time sure does fly... it seems like it was January just yesterday.
Every year we all set certain goals and hopefully you are making progress, or already accomplished some of them. I know there are all kinds of reasons for not achieving some of those goals... but really those "reasons" are poor excuses that your mind and subconscious mind have been conditioned to accept. Your mind and subconscious mind are trained or conditioned to live the life you're currently living.
It's easy to achieve your goals and enjoy your life when you forget about the failures, do the right things, and make the right choices.
When you take the right actions you know exactly what to do intuitively when you have your subconscious mind and your inner powers working for you so they create exactly you want.
That's when life becomes easy. But no one ever tells you that life can be easy.That you can get what you want. Instead, they tell you that life is hard and that you have to struggle.
If you're not enjoying the success you want; if you're not achieving your goals, if you're not getting what you want then you're not directing your subconscious and your inner powers by being consistent and focused to make it easy for you to succeed.
You'll get what you want and you'll easily achieve your goals when you direct your subconscious mind and your inner powers to bring you what you want.
Just how do you do this?
In today's blog, I'll show you how to get your subconscious mind and your inner powers to create the success you want by following some simple but powerful steps...
When I sleep, I’m what you call a “light sleeper.” WHEN I go to bed, I climb into bed and get into maximum sleep mode by turning on my side, burrowing under about two firm pillows, and pulling the covers over my head.
I love my power sleep. And there’s nothing worse than the moment the alarm goes off at 4:00 am. It’s a shrieking, nasty, shrill alarm. It could wake the dead. That’s why I bought it. It is so loud I placed it in my office to keep from waking the house.
You see, I used to hate to get out of bed. Especially in the winter. The bed is so toasty, and my daughter Neena climbs in and we play tug of war with my favorite blanket. But I get up anyway because I know how much it impacts my entire day when I get up early. I slide out of bed, put my feet on the floor and race to my office to turn off the screeching alarm. There is a huge amount of power to starting your day with this philosophy;
“The difference between the ordinary and the extraordinary is who wants it the most.”
But I wasn't always like this.
True Abundance is achieved by stretching yourself beyond your comfort zone to pursue your passion.
When was the last time you stretched yourself to achieve more than what you currently settle for? Switched your routine?
Drove a different route to work?
Took a risk?
Every day of our lives we are presented with choices. The easiest – and safest – option is to stick with what we know, snug in our comfort zone.But the price of playing it safe can be high. By following the same schedule day after day, or staying in a job that brings no joy or satisfaction, you may be giving up your chance to live an amazing life. To achieve true abundance you have to be prepared to stretch beyond your comfort zone and pursue what you truly want in life. It’s all about stretching yourself from where you are to where you would like to be.
You've said it before. And it always stops you dead in your tracks.
"I can never do this..."
You've said it at some point. And you've probably said it more often than you realize. Somebody close to you has said the same thing - that you could never do it. It may have been someone you love. Someone you respected and trusted. And so you believed them.
Today you still believe you can't. So you never do what you really want to do. And it's all because of that doubt that says you can't. But you can.
Balancing work and life is a lot like athletic competition: if you don’t prepare yourself mentally AND physically, you’ll find you don’t have what it takes to play the entire game and you’ll find yourself on the bench unable to help anyone. Balancing work and life and being successful requires you to stretch yourself and leave it all on the floor, but you have to be able to play until the final buzzer!
There are many people that suffer either in health or their relationships as a consequence of living a life that has fallen out of balance.
Success is all about balance.
You can succeed and have what you want in life.
You can achieve your goals - no matter how big or grand they may seem.
But no one really tells you that. Instead, they'll shoot down your ideas, tell you how hard it is to succeed, how times are tough and how you really can't live the life you want.
How do they know? They really don't know, but you listen and start believing.
You accept what they say and think "Yeah, I guess so."
And before you know it your subconscious mind picks up on those limiting beliefs and starts to create your life based on what others said. NOW you're living your life based on their beliefs of what you can or can’t do - not the life you want.
And your subconscious mind will keep creating the same situations over and over again - as long as you believe what they say.
I know that's not what you want.
You want to enjoy your life, make more money, and be in a good relationship.
If you’re married you want to have a wonderful relationship, a nice home and have your kids attend a good school. You want to ensure that your family's taken care of and that you no longer have to worry - about anything.
Well, you can have that life if that is truly the life you want.
So stop believing other peoples’ perception of you and what they say.
Stop believing that you have to work hard to succeed.
Because you don't.
All you have to do is direct your subconscious and your inner powers to create the success you want.
You decide if you're going to be successful or not.
Your subconscious and inner powers are ready to bring you the success you want, all you have to do is focus on what you want, take action, be consistent, finish strong in everything you set out to do
Your subconscious is always working for you. It's working for you right now. You're communicating with it at this moment. It's at work, responding to your instructions which are your focused thoughts.
Make sure you tell it exactly what you want. Give it the right instructions.
Follow the right steps. Take action, and be consistent, doing the right things at the right time.
Yes you can.
Yes you can make more money.
Yes you can be in the right relationship.
Yes you can have more time to do the things you want to do.
Yes you can live the life you want to live.
Yes you can... when you have the right mindset and with stretch yourself, I help you by walking you through all the steps you need to enjoy greater success
Remember you are a powerful person. More powerful than you realize. Start using and directing that power to create the success you want today
Stretching you continued success, happiness, and abundance.
Once you have written down your goals and developed a clear idea of what you want, you still have to get there.
I have put together what I consider to be the seven keys to achieving your goals. They are the crucial elements from start, to implementation, and to achievement of your goals to make your goals a reality. I want to emphasize how important it is to put into action the information that I am giving you here. It is vital to your success. Please don’t take it lightly.
#1 Desire It all starts with a dream, a passion, a desire to have or accomplish something. If you don’t want it, then why bother going after it?
#2 Belief In order to accomplish or acquire something, you must possess the beliefs that it is achievable and worth pursuing. Reaching this goal must not conflict with your values, and no one will be harmed or adversely affected by it. You must possess the belief that you are capable of achieving it, and that you can learn whatever is necessary to accomplish it. Place this affirmation somewhere where it is visible for you to see and see how your attitude will change when confronted with negativity that comes your way and causes you to doubt your own beliefs. “(Your Name here)’s beliefs is stronger than anyone's doubts.”
#3 Knowledge You need to acquire the knowledge and information that you will need to accomplish or achieve whatever it is you are attempting. This means learning the “how-to” of what you want to do. You will also need to read about, listen to, and model someone who has already done what you wish to accomplish in order to learn the mental strategies that are necessary to accomplish this goal.
A mentor has those resources, network, and tools you need, but mostly they will be that success partner to help you achieve those goals. Most people pick the wrong partner and in that moment failure is guaranteed.
A perfect analogy I gave today to one of my female students is imagine me overweight weighting 400 lbs. If I wanted to workout and lose weight would I get my friend that is weighing about as much as I am to help me? Of course not! I am going to find someone who has already achieved the desired results and has the discipline and insight to help me succeed in losing weight and I am going to spend time with them.
#4 Opportunity The opportunity must exist for you to take action and it all starts with you deciding and taking the first action step to achieve your goals. Is this something that you can do now? If not, when? Are there external (or internal) factors that are getting in the way?
#5 Vision In order to accomplish the goal, you must have a clear idea of what it is that you want, and create a compelling internal representation in your mind that you can “see” vividly. You can also use external pictures of your goal that you review daily. The better you can visualize your goal and its achievement, the better your chances of getting it. Make a vision board, and place it where it is visible. I have my vision board with pictures of my goals in my office on the wall, on my screen saver on my computer, and in my bedroom.
#6 Planning Devise a concise clear plan for the achievement of your goal setting long-term, short-term, as well as daily goals. Implement the use of a day-planner system to help you plan your time and to “track” your progress towards your achievement.
#7 Commitment Stick to it, no matter what. You must be prepared to do “whatever it takes” (without hurting anyone) to accomplish your goal. Use vision and planning to create such a great picture of your goal that you fall in love with the thought of its accomplishment. Post the following statement up on your bathroom mirror and recite it to yourself every morning:
“I will not give up, no matter how many obstacles I encounter, or how much pain I endure. Because these things are nothing compared to my desire to succeed.”
In my complimentary consultation, I take you through the most important steps in order for you to be clear as you plan your actions to achieve your goals. Take advantage and move forward and I look forward to connecting with you.
Stretchyourself! You'll be glad you did!
Business and life coaches always talk about creating a vision. They may have you see yourself making the money you want to make, buying the house you want to buy or being the weight you want to be. The reason that coaches insist on people making a vision is because it works- it works because people act in ways that reflect how they are thinking, imagining and believing. If you visualize success, it is far more likely that you will act in ways that will meet your true goals and achieve what you want.
As you visualize and focus on what you want in your relationship, you set interpersonal processes in motion that often seemingly miraculously shift relationships to a better place. I have found very useful tips for relationship visions that will greatly, and I mean greatly, increase the probability that you will have more relationship fulfillment.
Tips for creating a powerful and effective relationship vision:
Stretch yourself and have an adventurous, open approach to the relationships you want to achieve in your business, career, personal and social circles.
Here is an example of my relationship vision:
I see myself practicing more relaxation and behaviors that help me be more peaceful and aligned with my goals and purpose such as meditation as well as some other relaxation processes. I can see and feel myself focusing on all the wonderful attributes I bring to my business and how I can be of service to everyone I meet. I easily see myself on stage in front of a large group of people being a vibrant, passionate, confident, and charismatic teacher. I accept the things that happen in my life as learning experiences and understand that I do not need to focus on those things (as I have done too much of in the past). I see myself being consistent in my efforts and being focused on one step at a time; because I know and understand that each step brings me closer to achieving my goals. I see myself gaining new experiences with clients as I help them stretch themselves in their goals by empowering them to make every action towards goal fulfillment with purpose. I see my appointment schedule filled with corporate and business clients, and that make me feel good; knowing that I am living my life’s purpose by helping other realize their goals and dreams. I see myself enjoying the time spent with clients and the time spent with my family balanced. Because my work life has meaning, I am able to maintain a perfect balance, giving attention to each aspect undivided and unclouded with worries, because everything flows into my life with purpose and on time.
Lastly, I see myself focusing on this vision daily as part of my meditation. Of course, like in any visualization, it is a dynamic, changing process and your vision and mind will evolve through time.
As research and experts has taught us, the brain has plasticity. Visualizing your goals benefit you because you mind cannot perceive what is imagined and what is real. New neuronal connections can be made and these changes start with our imagination and creativity. Using your emotions provides one of the best opportunities for this kind of psychological and emotional development (that coincides with the neuron changes in our brain).
The reason emotions are such powerful vehicles for our growth is that emotionally charged actions brings results quickly with laser beam focus and determined action. Creating a relationship vision and giving it your consistent attention is fuel for the engine of this incredible vehicle of growth that is the foundation of Stretch Yourself.
Create a vision, apply it, BELIEVE it, and then give me some feedback as the year rolls on. I expect to hear some great things! If you need help creating your relationship vision, schedule a free consultation with me and let’s see if a collaboration will help your STRETCH your relationship capital.
Thanks and I look forward to connecting with you soon.
Dream BIG...I mean BIG -- it's a simple process that leads to success all the time.
Les Brown says "when the dream is big enough, the odds don’t matter."
Most people don't dream BIG... they just think about what they could do and wonder why their lives never change or get better.
“The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it” ~ Michelangelo
Thinking BIG is simple... you're probably wondering what BIG is.
Let me tell you when you think BIG and stay on track you'll succeed - no matter what your goals.
Here's what thinking BIG Really means
B - Believe in yourself
I - Inspiration from Others
G - Goal Setting & Go for it TAKE ACTION!
There is a process that you need to apply in order to make thinking BIG work for you - and today I'll show you exactly how to apply the process of thinking BIG so that you get the results you want.
Stay with me - it's pretty simple and straight forward – but there is a method that you have to follow otherwise you won't get the results you want.
When you think BIG and take action you get your subconscious mind focused on bringing you the people, situations and circumstances that will help you succeed.
Thinking BIG is more than just having a few thoughts and big ideas.
The first step is to Believe in yourself
Venus Williams says "You have to Believe in yourself when no one else does, that’s what makes you a winner."
A lot of people want to make more money, they want to be in a great relationship, they want to have a great career, they want to enjoy life - but they really don't believe they can.
Believing and wanting are two different things.
Believing means you absolutely know that you can and will succeed.
Wanting is a yearning - you want something to fill a void, it's a good starting point - but you need to go from wanting to believing.
When you believe and take action based on those beliefs you basically tell your subconscious mind that you're ready for success and that you will accept nothing less than success. It's not about saying I will - instead, believe that you are succeeding and getting what you want (filling that void) and taking action based on your beliefs.
Next - Inspiration from others
Draw inspiration from others. I do this all the time.
Hey if they can succeed - so can you! You can do anything that they can do and you may even be able to do it better. Learn from them but be inspired - there are new achievements being made everyday.
In the recent Olympics we saw records being crushed. Those athletes believe in themselves, and they draw inspiration from their predecessors.
When you're inspired you basically supercharge up your subconscious mind you give it some extra energy and extra drive - it realizes that what you want is important and begins to work harder for you.
When you see somebody succeed don’t throw negative hate on them- praise them and be inspired - because you're NEXT. It's a message your subconscious mind picks up and drives you to succeed.
Step 3 - Goal Setting and GO for it (Take Action) - and believe it or not this is where a lot of people fail. They don't set clear goals, they don't know what they want, and they don't have measurable goals. More importantly, they don’t take action towards the goals they have set.
So set a goal - be clear and be specific. Understand why you want this goal - the why helps you be clear and stay motivated. Make sure you can measure your success - otherwise you won't know if you're making any progress. Then check your progress and make adjustments.
When you have clear goals, you can stay focused - when you're focused on something and repeatedly give it attention you begin to draw the positive people who will help you succeed.
Your subconscious mind sees this as a clear instruction - it needs to get this done. Your goal needs to be achieved. Your subconscious says - this is so important we have to make this happen.
At this point your subconscious begins to work overtime to help you achieve your goal. But success won't happen without the final component.
That's the second G - Go for it (Take Action)
You have to go for it. You have to take action. You can't sit around and wait for everything to come to you. That's not how you succeed.
Those Olympic athletes trained everyday for years... their success didn't come overnight. They had to keep going for it - even when they were tired, when they had setbacks, when they got sick or injured - they kept going.
You have to keep going after it. You have to keep pursuing your goal because the minute you give up - you fail - and that's a certainty.
However, when you keep pursuing your goal, when you believe in yourself, when you draw inspiration from others, when you set clear goals and you go for it and take action - your mind, subconscious mind, and the universe get the message.
They realize that this is something that must happen and they have to make it happen for you. You're doing everything you can to succeed and they have no choice but to help you.
When you think BIG you succeed. When you direct the full power of your mind and subconscious mind you enjoy success sooner and it becomes a habit - so you succeed and achieve your goals more and more often.
Think of it as a way of programming yourself to get what more of what you want. Right now you're probably programmed to not get what you want or get less of what you want.
It's time to change the way your mind and subconscious mind work.
Begin applying a new thought process.
Begin seeing things differently and begin directing your mind and subconscious mind to create more of what you want
Keep Thinking BIG... Remember if you don't do anything - if you don't change the way your mind works and direct your subconscious mind to create the life you want - everything stays the same - nothing changes. I will end this with an old African proverb that says "if there no enemy within, the enemy outside can do you no harm."
This is your life- make the most of it - begin working with the power of your mind and subconscious mind to consciously create the life you want. Starting now.
I look forward to connecting with you soon.
Inspiration is what drives you to succeed.
Without it you're likely going to give up with the first obstacle you encounter.
But when you're inspired... when you can draw up on that inspiration that comes from within you... you will be able to stretch yourself to achieve your goals while enjoying happiness in the process.
People often talk about being motivated...
they want to get more done, achieve a goal, meet the right person, finish a project, but they tell me they're just not motivated.
When they tell me they’re just not motivated, I tell them what they are pursuing is not what they truly want.
If you really want to get things done, if you really want to enjoy life, then you need to be inspired by what you truly want. Now I know it's not easy to be inspired simply because you want to get things done.
So instead of thinking about why you want to achieve something, think about the end result of having achieved it.
Think about how you would feel with a project completed or things done.
Think about how you would look and feel after you’ve lost weight or meet someone.
These feelings are what drive you - they inspire you.
If we lose sight of them we lose our inspiration - we lose our reason for living.
Sure goals will change, but inspiration always comes from within. It's the fuel that keeps the fire burning.
It's not just about getting motivated, you want to be inspired.
Every morning I get inspired when I look into my two daughter's eyes. I think about why I do the things I do and I think about the impact I would make touching lives with my inspiration to help people STRETCH to create relationships in business and life that fulfill them and THAT keeps my fire burning.
You to have burning desires (I like to call PASSION)... now light them with inspiration of how you would feel when you’ve achieve your goals... and pursue them passionately.
Live the kind of life you were meant to live... one that's pleasant, filled with joy, success, happiness and harmony.
Fill your mind with thoughts that inspire you.
Give your subconscious mind the inspiration it needs to attract the situations that will help you succeed.
Take positive action and focus on the positive things that happen in your life.
Everyday inspire yourself by thinking about how you would feel when everything you are striving to accomplish has been met, and how they will make your life (and the lives of those around you) so much better.
You were meant to enjoy life.
You were born in passion and love, two of the great emotions, so passion and love is within you.
Spread the goodness you have inside.
Inspire yourself and take a moment to inspire someone around you.
Do something inspirational... or help someone else become inspired.
Once you start the process become infectious... you'll want to keep inspiring because when you inspire others, you'll inspire yourself.
Thanks for reading, BE INSPIRED and STRETCH yourself to make everyday better than the last one. You'll be glad you did
I get this question a lot from clients that wonder the big WHY? I believe it is good to ask why, but before I get into the reasons why here are some of the questions that I receive;
WHY am I not successful?
I am focused and I am applying everything that you talk about, so WHY am I not seeing results?
WHY hasn’t anything changed?
Reasons for these questions are simple.
Everything starts with the mind. In everything that you strive to achieve, 80% is the psychology, and 20% is the mechanics. If you are not mentally prepared you will fail every time. If you have all the tools and you are applying everything that is taught, and you’re not getting results, or you find yourself in the same situation every time, you have inner conflicts.
The inner conflicts come when what you are doing and what you are practicing are in direct conflict with what you truly believe in.
You want to spend time with your family, but you want to build a million dollar company.
You want to be successful, but you are afraid your success will prevent you from being loved.
You want to be successful, but part of you thinks you don’t deserve success, because of something you did in the past. Or you think having money and being successful is bad and is not spiritually connected.
Whatever you truly believe in is preventing you from achieving. To overcome this, so your intentions and beliefs are in synch, there are three things you would want to do:
First, you have to identify the conflicts and get clear on what they are. Some of the things you need to ask yourself are; what do you truly want? What is most important to you today? What are you fearful of? Don’t think about what you should do based on your parents, society, and what friends tell you. What truly matters for you to be successful and fulfilled?
Second, Align your life with what you truly value. Dispel the old beliefs and replace them with what is most important to you. When you align yourself with what you truly value, you are connected to your true self and everything will come second nature.
Lastly Take action! Again, when you are in a position where you are aligned with your beliefs and intentions, and there is nothing pulling you away from it, you won’t even have to work at. Just go for it!
So create inner beliefs that synch with your true intentions that allow you to succeed.
Fill your mind up with positive thoughts.
Focus on your past and present success.
It doesn't matter if things haven't worked out in the past.
It doesn't matter if you haven't achieved all that you wanted.
You are at a new point in your life and starting today, you must decide right here and now to believe in yourself and believe that you can succeed... because the truth is you can do and be anything you want... but only if you believe in yourself.
Start by making simple commitments to be the best that you can be.
Be the best husband/wife/son/daughter.
Be the best employee or boss.
Be the best partner.
Be the best friend.
Be the best person a stranger could meet
Be the best human being you can.
Change what you truly believe and you will succeed. Dismiss the negative thinking and limiting beliefs that have prevent you from following through. Fill your mind and subconscious mind with possibilities and positive messages everyday.
Let's make everyday truly spectacular... and it starts today.
Take a moment to focus on all the positive things in your life.
Appreciate all the people in your life and all the people you meet everyday.
Remember -- you only get one life and one chance. Make the most of it.
Stretch Yourself! You'll be glad you did.
As we near the end of a challenging year, I can think of no better advice than to stretch yourself and finish strong.
Life comes at you. And during those times life comes at you, you’re certain to encounter obstacles as you pursue your goals. Obstacles that are resolved in a split second, and some over a long period of time based on your perception about the problem. Regardless of the obstacles, only you have the power to choose how to respond to the tasks at hand.
My mother used to tell me that it is not the circumstances in which you find yourself that define you son; it is always the choices you make. I like to call these stretch choices – that moment in time when you must make a choice. Will you lie down, settle, or quit? Or will you stretch yourself towards your goals with focused energy to the best of your ability.
I have some things to share but first, one point about goals:
Write them Down,
Keep them Visible.
I know we have all heard this before but this is very powerful for maintaining focus.
Make them Specific, realistic, measurable, and attainable.
Don’t just say I want to lose 30lbs say
Goal: 30 lbs this year
Specific: By lifting weights 2x a week
Realistic: I am going to lose 2.5lbs month
Measurable: By eating using portion control; walk/run 3 times a week
Take it back to the basics. Assess where you currently are, then ask yourself what is the next immediate step that will bring you closer to your goals. Lastly, go over it, first thing in the morning, review it during the day and lastly, before you go to sleep. This creates a focus that you have never experienced, will keep you positive, and of course, your eye on achieving your goal.
Now I don’t want to paint a fluffy cloud, bright sunny day picture that when you make that choice to stretch yourself and finish strong, all of a sudden your world will change and everything will be easy. The fact of the matter is stretching yourself is hard – rewarding, but hard.
You see, when you break out of the comfort zone and develop that mindset and hold yourself accountable for all your actions, you’ll find yourself being more committed, disciplined, passionate, and focused. You will perform to the best of your ability. And if you can’t handle the pressure, then you’re resigning to mediocrity that has made you unhappy so far. But if you resolve to stretch yourself and finish strong in all your endeavors, I can promise you that you will be totally satisfied with your life based on making that choice. After all, life is all about choices; why not choose to be completely happy with where you want your life to lead you?
Stretch Yourself and finish strong...You'll be glad you started and when you look back, you'll see how far you came.
If you're ready to start living and begin creating the life that you want then take a look at your present situation and ask yourself what's wrong with the very moment you are in. You should find nothing wrong with the present moment it is what it is and once you accept it you can start living again.
Let's face it you can't turn your mind off but you can make a conscious effort to start thinking differently. If you don't take control of your mind your mind will control you and that's not going to help you improve your life.
Ask yourself these questions:
Do you find yourself waiting for something to happen, just reacting to the push and pull of circumstances?
Are you waiting till you have more time?
Make more money?
Meet the right person?
Are you procrastinating?
Procrastination is another game the mind plays because it is comfortable in the current situation you are doesn't want to stretch out of that comfort zone.
If you answered yes to any of the above questions then you're not living in the present moment you are focusing on anything but the present moment. I know you can't focus on the present moment or live in the now 24 hours a day. But start by doing this for a few minutes a day and then continue expanding the exercise everyday.
Then track your progress. See how you feel when you only focus on what is happening right now. As you continually do this you'll see yourself starting to enjoy the process.
Here's a suggestion. The next time you are driving or walking pay attention only to what is happening around you. Listen to the sounds, observe the people. Don't think about what you have to do or what happened yesterday or what might happen tomorrow or what might happen in five minutes. Focus your attention only on what is happening right now. Doing this will get your mind to start living in the present moment and before you know it you'll be able to focus your mind and be in the present.
Start being in the present - you'll be more focused and you'll enjoy the present moment. Best of all you'll start moving toward achieving your goals and living the life you want.
Remember to have some fun. Enjoy life. Do things differently.
Act like a kid when you can; kids are always living in the now; that's all they know. They don’t worry about the next day or even what happened to them a couple of minutes ago!
Forget about your troubles and just do something completely different and have some fun. Once you start doing this you'll see things begin to fall into place. If you have a passion for sports then start playing a sport you like. If you have a passion for cooking make a meal or two over the next couple of days. Do what you enjoy and you'll start attracting more positive situations into you life.
This is just one small exercise to start consciously living in the present.
Live in the Now
Remember - be yourself. Focus on the present and what going on NOW.
Push yourself to not focus on the past and to be in the present everyday.
Do what you enjoy.
Live your passion.
Stretch yourself – consciously create the relationships you deserve – starting with you.
True Abundance is achieved by stretching yourself beyond your comfort zone to pursue your passion
When was the last time you stretched yourself to achieve more than what you settle for? Switch your routine? Drove a different route to work? Took a risk? Every day of your lives we are presented with choices. The easiest – and safest – option is to stick with what we know, snug in our comfort zone.
But the price of playing it safe can be high. By following the same schedule day after day, or staying in a job that brings not joy or satisfaction, you may be giving up your chance to line an amazing life. To achieve true abundance you have to be prepared to stretch beyond your comfort zone and pursue what you truly want in life. It’s all about stretching yourself from where you are to where you would like to be.
CLOSE THE GAP
If you stress over bills, you need to find a way to close the gap between your income and your expenses. If you are miserable at work, it’s time to change your job. No matter how good, or how successful, you are at what you do, if the highlight of your day is clocking out time, where’s the passion in what you do?
If you are a mom spending the best years of your children’s life at work, make sure it’s what you want. My heart and my experience tells me that no mom, after her children have left home, wishes she had spent less time with them when they were growing up.
What about using your skills to start your own business? Mompreneurs have every skill need to succeed. Communication, building relationships, and multi tasking are second nature to women. Being a mom trains you to become mentors, coaches and teachers. Anyone who runs a home has organizational skills.
Life is not a dress rehearsal. We get one shot at it, and there are no second chances. Allowing your life to just drift by, succumbing to the push and pull of circumstances, or postponing your chance and true abundance by allowing past choices to determine your future, makes no sense.
DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT
The first step towards stretching yourself is deciding what you want. Whether it’s earning enough to cover your bills or traveling the world first class, does your blood pump and your heart race when you think about it? If not, imagine and set your sights higher. It takes the same amount of energy to imagine a big dream as it does a small dream so Dream BIG.
Step two is committing to your goal and stick to it, no matter what roadblocks and detours you encounter along the way. If achieving what you desire is easy everyone would be successful, but everyone is not. Only the exceptional few that push it a little further, stretch themselves and go beyond what is required are successful. Welcome challenges as part of the journey. What is a thrill ride without adventure?
The third step is the most important step of all. It is accepting that the greatest obstacle standing between you and the life you deserve is you! For most of us, it’s not the destination, but our fear of the journey that holds us back.
Now understand there are a lot of excuses, but fear is the mechanism behind them. Fear is disabling. It stops us from seizing our chance to seek a better life. It stops us from moving on from jobs, relationships and commitments that are well past their use by date. It’s an inviting emotional handicap parking space that you keep using as an excuse not to move forward.
Self doubt is the single greatest barrier you will ever have to overcome in life. If you don’t think you deserve to live your dreams, you’ll come up with a thousand excuses whey you won’t. “I’m too old, young, busy…” “I’ll wait till the kids are grown.” “I don’t have enough education.” I need a lot of things to get started.” Thinking this way is opening the door and inviting failure to come in.
It takes courage, not confidence to pursue the life you deserve. If every successful person waited to become confident, the list of achievers would be a very short one. Ever achiever I know had the courage to pursue their dreams despite of their fears, doubts and setbacks.
There are no guarantees in life, but worrying about the what ifs is like saying, “I’d like to be an optimist, but I know it wouldn’t work out.” It’s setting yourself up to fail and it saps energy you could be using to stretch yourself and propel yourself forward.
Give yourself permission to live spectacularly. There are no penalties for not achieving the goals you set, so what do you have to lose. Stretch Yourself! Go for it! You may surprise yourself by achieving abundance beyond your imagination.
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